Bully Proof Mini-Course

 

BULLY PROOF is a quick course by Scot Conway, the supervising master of the GQ Dojo. Conway also earned a Ph.D. and J.D. This program was originally produced for the mother membership site MothersRaisingSons.com. It is presented here as a bonus to our guests at www.GQDojo.com.

BULLY PROOF 1:

Case Building


This can be one of the hardest, first lessons to learn. The “system” (teacher, principal, school, etc.) may not be able to do anything when your child tells an adult. Even if a parent shows up, the school might not be able to do anything anyway. You do it anyway because you’re Case Building. Just keep in mind that there might not be anything they can do with any given report.

BULLY PROOF 2:

The ABCD of Bullying


What is bullying?


Not every mean act is bullying. Individual events by generally good kids should be handled one way. Bullying by bullies should be handled another. Understanding what is and is not bullying is therefore important. Dr. Conway shares the definition of bullying as taught by Dr. Robyn Silverman, our Character Development Program creator.

BULLY PROOF 3:

Bully Defense 101 - Tell


The first line of defense for any kind of threat is to tell. If teachers don’t know, they can’t help. If parents don’t know, they can’t help. True, they may not be able to help even if they know... but a child who keeps being bullied a secret is taking away all chances. When bullies know that anything they do will become known to adults, it makes a difference.

BULLY PROOF 4:

“Armor” Detachment


Most bullying is not physical. It’s words. And that can hurt more, last longer, and it’s harder to do anything about it.  Cyber-bullying is an example of completely non-physical bullying that can be devastating.


The “Armor Technique” is one way to help our children deal with this kind of bullying.

BULLY PROOF 5:

Disassociation


A more detailed version of this technique can be found in Dr. Conway’s books and programs. Here, he shares a quick summary of the technique in enough detail to help your child with many situations.


The technique is Disassociation, a method to take the emotional sting out of a painful memory or painful thought process.

BULLY PROOF 6:

Five Step Letting Go


Sometimes incredibly hurtful things have happened and we need to help our kids let it go. “Let it go” and “forgive” are easy words. Here’s  an actual system to do it. There is enough here to get the idea and use if for some lighter events. For something more serious, get a copy of one of Dr. Conway’s books or his program on the subject.

BULLY PROOF 7:

Bully Defense 101 - Tell


The first line of defense for any kind of threat is to tell. If teachers don’t know, they can’t help. If parents don’t know, they can’t help. True, they may not be able to help even if they know... but a child who keeps being bullied a secret is taking away all chances. When bullies know that anything they do will become known to adults, it makes a difference.

BULLY PROOF Bonus:

If You Were Nice...


Elementary School bullying is typically not very dangerous (typically, though certainly not always).


Often, children being  persistently mean are acting out of their own pain. Sometimes (but only sometimes) a friendly approach can diffuse a bullying situation.


This is from a classroom presentation to deal with a specific situation in the class.

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